When you're in the thick of postpartum, it’s easy to feel like you’re carrying everything - your recovery, your baby, your household, your relationship. And in many ways, you are.
But there’s another side of the story that often gets missed. While mums are navigating physical healing, identity shifts, and emotional highs and lows, many new dads are stumbling through their own quiet upheaval.
They might not show it in the same way. They might not even have the words for it. But that doesn’t mean they’re not feeling it.
This blog isn’t about shifting the spotlight. It’s about widening it. Because when we start seeing dads in the postpartum picture, we create space for more honest connection, better support, and shared care for everyone in the family.
The Forgotten Partner
While mums often carry the physical and emotional weight of postpartum, many dads are holding pressure too. They’re back at work, juggling finances, caring for older kids, trying to keep the house running, and managing their own mental load.
They’re also often expected to be the steady one, even when they’re feeling uncertain or overwhelmed.
That’s why postpartum support can’t stop with mums. When dads feel supported, seen and included, the whole family feels more connected.
Preparing for Fatherhood is Just as Important
We often plan for birth with detail and care, but what about after?
Dads need preparation too. Not just for nappies and naptimes, but for the emotional shift that comes with fatherhood.
Start here:
- Have regular check-ins that go deeper than “how are you?”
- Practice listening without needing to fix
- Share the load, feeding, settling, meal prep, managing visitors
These everyday actions build trust and connection. They show your partner they’re in this with you, not on the sidelines.
Your Relationship Will Shift
Even the strongest relationships get tested in the early days of parenting. Hormones, sleepless nights and identity shifts can bring tension.
Support each other by getting honest about:
- What you both need to feel seen and cared for
- How you’ll communicate when things feel heavy
- What helps you reconnect when things feel off
It’s not about avoiding conflict. It’s about choosing to work through the hard bits together.
Every Parent Deserves Support
If you're preparing for life with a baby, or already deep in the fourth trimester, know this, you’re allowed to ask for help. And your partner might need support too, even if they don’t know how to say it.
Postpartum isn’t meant to be a solo experience. And it isn’t just about one parent.
It’s about learning how to hold each other, even when it’s messy. About raising a baby, yes but also raising a family that knows how to show up for one another.
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You don’t have to do this alone. Neither does your partner. 💛
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