I still remember those early weeks when everything felt new, raw and a little unpredictable. You’re holding this tiny person you’ve grown, but you’re also learning them from scratch. Some days the connection feels natural, and on others, you’re wondering if you’re doing any of it “right”.
Something I wish more mums heard early on is this: connection isn’t always instant, and it definitely isn’t about getting things perfect. Often, the simplest things we do with our babies become the most grounding, reassuring moments for both of us. Baby massage is one of those things. It doesn’t need to be formal or structured. Sometimes it’s just gentle, intentional touch that says, “I’m here. I’ve got you.”
Whether it’s a cuddle after a long night, a slow stroke down tiny legs or a little foot rub between feeds, touch has a way of reminding both you and your baby that you’re on the same team. And the more I’ve learned, the more I’ve realised just how much those small moments of baby massage can shape the early weeks.
Seeing Your Baby, Not the Noise
There’s so much pressure on new parents now. Advice comes from everywhere, and it’s easy to lose sight of your own instincts. But babies don’t communicate with words. They communicate with cues. This is where baby massage becomes helpful. When you slow down enough to notice how your baby responds to touch, you start to read them with more confidence.
Those tiny squirms, sighs and stretches become conversations. You begin massaging your baby in a way that follows their lead, not a rulebook. And strangely, that’s when everything feels a little simpler.
How Baby Massage Supports Development
Baby massage isn’t just relaxing. It supports your baby’s development in powerful, evidence-backed ways.
Gentle, responsive touch can help your baby:
- Regulate their nervous system
- Feel calmer and more settled
- Build stronger attachment and connection
- Develop early body awareness
- Support digestion, sleep and overall comfort
And here’s the part mums often don’t realise: baby massage supports you too. Touch triggers oxytocin, helps lower stress and gives your nervous system the same chance to settle. It’s a shared moment of grounding when everything else feels loud.
It’s Not About Perfect Technique
You don’t need to know the “right” massage strokes. You don’t need a perfect sequence or a long routine. Baby massage is simply responsive touch. It’s following your baby’s cues and adjusting as you go.
Some babies love long, gentle strokes. Others prefer firm pressure or shorter bursts of touch. Some babies melt into massage after a bath. Others only tolerate a minute or two before wriggling off.
All of it is normal. What matters is attunement, not perfection.
Baby Massage as a Reset Button
There’ll be days when everything feels out of rhythm. Feeds are chaotic. Sleep feels impossible. You’re touched out, but also craving some kind of reset.
Baby massage becomes a soft pause.
A hand on your baby’s chest.
A slow stroke down their back.
A moment to breathe together.
It doesn’t fix everything, but it helps bring you both back to centre. Sometimes that small shift is all you need to keep going.
Growing Confidence Together
Confidence doesn’t come from knowing every technique. It comes from building small moments of connection over time. Baby massage helps you slow down, read your baby more clearly and trust what you’re sensing.
With time, these moments become anchors. They help you feel more capable. More connected. More grounded in the kind of parent you already are.
As You Navigate These Early Weeks
If you’re in the thick of the early weeks and everything feels uncertain, please know this: you’re not doing it wrong. You’re learning your baby, and your baby’s learning you. Baby massage is just one simple way to support that journey.
You’re not alone. You’re not failing. You’re doing better than you think.
Disclaimer:
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