Let’s be honest, there are days when motherhood feels like trying to juggle too many balls while balancing on a tightrope. Some days, it all feels manageable. Other days? One misplaced toy or a persistent whine can send us over the edge. I’ve been there, and I’m guessing you have too. Just recently, I found myself in the thick of it, raising my voice at my child and instantly feeling the pangs of guilt.
If you’ve ever experienced a moment like this, you’re not alone. Let’s unpack those tough feelings together and explore how to move forward with compassion for yourself and your child.
Why Mum Rage Happens
Motherhood is a constant whirlwind of emotions, and sometimes, it’s just plain overwhelming. Between managing responsibilities, navigating sleepless nights, and meeting everyone’s needs but your own, the pressure can build.
Mum rage isn’t about failing as a parent, it’s your body and mind’s way of saying, “I need help, rest, or a moment to breathe.” Recognising this can be a powerful first step toward healing and growth.
Steps to Take After an Outburst
When those moments happen, it’s important to remember that you can repair the connection with your child. Here’s how:
Pause and Breathe: Take a moment to gather yourself. Step into another room or take a few deep breaths to calm your nervous system.
Apologise Authentically: Let your child know you’re sorry. A simple, heartfelt, “I shouldn’t have yelled, and I’m sorry,” goes a long way in showing them it’s okay to make mistakes.
Reflect on the Trigger: Ask yourself what caused the outburst. Was it exhaustion? A feeling of being unheard? Understanding the root can help you address it next time.
Reconnect: Spend time with your child, whether it’s a cuddle, a chat, or simply sitting together. Reaffirm the love and security in your relationship.
Processing Guilt: Be Kind to Yourself
The guilt that follows can feel all-consuming, but it’s important to remember that motherhood isn’t about perfection. It’s about showing up and doing your best, even on tough days.
When guilt creeps in, remind yourself that every parent struggles. Journaling, chatting with a trusted friend, or simply taking a quiet moment to yourself can help ease that heavy feeling.
Your children don’t need a perfect parent. They need one who shows up, owns their mistakes, and models resilience.
Progress, Not Perfection
Motherhood isn’t about getting it right all the time, it’s about showing up, learning, and loving through the messy moments. So, the next time you feel that mum guilt creeping in, remind yourself that one bad moment doesn’t define you. What matters most is how you reconnect and move forward.
We’re all in this together, mama. Let’s keep learning and growing, one messy, beautiful day at a time.
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